Sexual Energy and the Bigger Picture

If two people are sad alone how can they be happy together?
Love is Selfish before it is Selfless.

The one thing that must be understood about Tantra or Taoist dual cultivation is that it is about expressing the purest form of love, one which is impersonal. Impersonal doesn't mean without intimacy. Impersonal in this case actual means the participants are no longer operating from ego, but rather though the union of the physical bodies acting as a conduit for universal energy, highest form of love. The only prerequisite for allowing universal energy to flow is presence alone. When we are present we are pure of heart. Tantra doesn't require energy be project or directed, only that both participants remain centered as a witness to the energies which are facilitated by the connection. Typically, we direct the vast majority of our efforts/energy externally attempting to create the life we want through external means. The life we want ultimately doesn't require a relationship, money, a car, a house, ... You name it. What we truly want is contentment/joy/love all of which external means can only show us as potential, the real contentment is experienced within. We radiate from our center outward, not the other way around; remember we inhabiting this form 24/7 from birth till death, this is obvious and the most powerful realization one can have during their individual de-conditioning process. When we first begin our self awareness process we must remember we all have issues and those issues are what we are attempting to bring to the surface, so that they may be brought out of the shadows and our highest attributes may be expressed through clarity. When we operate from our center we allow ourselves to be affected and to affect others without holding onto the outcome whether negative or positive, because all outcomes are temporary and for our learning in the moment.

Through out history sex has generally been labeled the bad guy, a sin, and sex for pleasure was a direct trip to hell. Many of the teachings from traditional religions in essence had a foundation built upon natural law. Natural law is the law of how creation functions both known and unknown, this law is reacted to, witnessed and not created by man. Many of the traditional beliefs about sex were simply shallow versions of deeper truths, and one could speculate that the hierarchy had an interest in keeping humanity in the dark regarding the true nature of sexual energy. Many traditional religions made a practice of informing their followers to continue to look up and to assume the creator was somewhere outside themselves. Part of that looking away mandate included shamming humanities way of modeling creation, SEX. Anytime we hold a negative emotion about something as foundational as sex we distort the flow of energy as it moves through that particular area or Chakra. Any distortion will lead to a im-balance, dis-ease, or dis-comfort. The original teachings about sex prior to the shallow interpretation and implementation of the shame mandate, looked at sex not only as a way in which we pro-create, but it also needed to respected as a foundational energy valve in the process of enlightenment.

In tantra, Taoism, and Yoga sexual energy can serve another purpose, arguably a higher purpose. This energy when conserved actually contributes to our vitality, immunity and nervous system balance. Keep in mind that in reality, on a fundamental level, sexual energy does not exist; it only exists in the realm of the mind and it's attachment to externalizing and experiencing energy within the area of sex. There is only one energy. Energy will manifest in the human experience in order to be externalized and expressed. If energy is left unexpressed and consciousness is allowed to remain still this energy will move toward higher spiritual states. Think of it as income. You have your gross income which is before the IRS claims it's share, before bills are paid, before we spend it on entertainment, before we buy food, etc... By the end everyone takes their cut from your gross you are left with a fraction of the original. This is how energy works. Energy begins at a base, where it is consumed by the functions of being alive on earth; digestion, maintenance of the organs, production of enzymes and hormones, movement, and cognition. We consume our reserve even further though our unconscious patterns of worry, judgement, sulking, intellectualizing, anger, and self pity. All functions of living remove energy from the original gross. Ejaculation is one of those processes which not only has the potential to bring about life, but also an energetic debt. Sexual activity involves a huge cascade of hormones and biological processes, which are left out of balance once ejaculation occurs.

Sex can either be for reproductive purposes or for bonding and cultivation of intimacy which may have an uplifting and healing effect on the body. There are a number of hormones associated with bonding which may lead to feelings of well being and closeness between individuals. When two are bonded without the loss of energy the heart becomes the primary way of connecting and relating to one another as opposed to lust. For this elevation to occur much of the responsibility lies with the male in maintaining and circulating his sexual energy as opposed to discharging it. If the man releases he may experience the feeling of wanting to mate with others or perhaps resentment stemming from the feeling that something precious has been taken from him (sexual energy). Sex is a cooperative effort, particularly when the established goal is for healing and the elevation of this base energy. In order for a couple to move beyond reproductive sex into bonding sex there must be an agreement that a new approach is adopted and that the two partners be attentive to where the other is at. During a sexual union hormones surge and often the man begins to feel the pressure for discharge; this is the essential pressure which can be calmed and circulated. The essential pressure can be built up through abstaining from ejaculation, and once this occurs there is a latent charge which can be aroused during sexual union or by use of solo techniques. What needs to be understood about Tantric sex or Taoist sexual Union is the approach is not lustful and heated but is one of intentional pacing anchored in the breath and slow movements. This style of sex is not about loosing yourself in the other but about cultivating a meditative union. When we loose ourselves in the other our energy is also directed toward the other, which means there is some potential for loss if an ejaculation occurs, energy follows attention. The cultivation and transmutation of sexual energy is a healing practice, and giving away that energy to someone outside ourselves removes the charge necessary for us to heal ourselves. The healer is actually a helper, and this applies to those we make love to also. When two connect in a conscious union each is facilitating the healing process in the other.

If you can perceive sexual energy and its associated glandular secretions as water and understand that this water has an associated well or cistern of water in the brain you can then clearly see how the process of building pressure below will aid in motivating this subtle energy upward. Awareness acts as fire in that it has and stimulating effect on those areas of the body in which it is focused. This is a beautiful mechanism in that the mind itself is able to traverse the physical through feeling and its through feeling that the cells in that area of the body begin to resonate at a different frequency. Where there is numbness there is simply a lack of feeling or awareness. How this applies to sexual energy is simple. When the act of making love or an arousing guided meditation is practiced intentionally the sexual act itself becomes a ritual which aids in intensifying or deepening the intention. Anywhere we place our awareness or intention energy will follow; this is why concentration techniques are so very important, as the more single pointed or clear or intention the more powerful the flow of energy. For instance, if a sexual union is very genital focused, then this is where that energy will remain, and this healing flow will be underutilized. If we connect first through breath, touch, and slowly build into sex then we allow the connection to grow and the energy to flow in other areas beside the genitals and the mind.  

Sexual energy when transmuted leads to creativity, enthusiasm, and passion. All energy centers have a upward and a downward moving function. Sexual energy when stimulated is due to a downward flowing impulse of stimulation rooted in the mind and is usually stimulated visually. In order for this energy to begin its journey up wards it must traverse a gap located at the perineum and up to the lower Dan Tien, the space located bellow the navel and back toward the spine. This gap maybe traversed by pulling up on the perineum via root lock, contract the anus, perineum, the genitals, and belt line. When we shift the energy over the gap from front to back it moves to the area around the tailbone. Once we have shifted our awareness to the tailbone we can begin moving it around our orbit; up the spine, into the head, down the tongue, and back to the lower Dan Tien; for details watch video below. This is a practice that one can do while alone, remember it's important to connect to the "horny" feeling first.


                                          For Technique begin at minute 6:26

The one thing that must be understood about Tantra or Taoist dual cultivation is that it is about expressing the purest form of love, one which is impersonal. Impersonal doesn't mean without intimacy. Impersonal in this case actual means the participants are no longer operating from ego, but rather though the union of the physical bodies acting as a conduit for universal energy, the highest form of love. The only prerequisite for allowing universal energy to flow is presence alone. When we are present we are pure of heart. Tantra doesn't require energy be project or directed, only that both participants remain centered as a witness to the energies which are facilitated by the connection. Typically, we direct the vast majority externally attempting to create the life we want through external means. The life we want ultimately doesn't require a relationship, money, a car, a house, ... You name it. What we truly want is contentment/joy/love all of which external means can only show us as potential, the real contentment is experienced within. We radiate from our center outward, not the other way around; remember we inhabiting this form 24/7 from birth till death, this is obvious and the most powerful realization one can have during their individual de-conditioning process. When we first begin our self awareness process we must remember we all have issues and those issues are what we are attempting to bring to the surface, so that they may be brought out of the shadows and our highest attributes may be expressed through clarity.

The Body is Life and Life has nothing to offer but Flow!

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