Tantra for All

Tantra at Soma Arts is offered as a service for both singles and couples

First off it must be stated that Tantra actually is not about sex or connecting with others, these are merely techniques which aid us on what is actually a very personal and internal path toward individuation and connection with ALL creation. Relationships are powerful movers of energy. When we agree to bond deeply with another emotions are triggered, drama happens, and feelings get hurt; all of this is a huge part of how we can potentially benefit from our relationships. It's an illusion to expect our connections to be positive all the time, sometimes we need to struggle because it's our struggles which bring about growth.

- One on One sessions: The primary purpose on private one on one sessions is to teach the student of Tantra a structure and the necessary perspective which opens the door to a deeper more Tantric connection with others, within, and with all creation. An Ideal needs a Structure through which to Manifest. These sessions are non sexual in nature.
- Couples sessions: The one thing we must understand about life in general and relationships specifically is that change is the true nature of all creation! We become fixed by our patterns and yet everything continues to change, our bodies shift and we still hold onto a static perspective. This is often what occurred in many relationships where the couple seems to have lost its connection because of two individuals adjusted to change a different paces. Our relationships become fueled by loyalty, expectations, and hope that we can rekindle some of that early spark. It's not that the spark is gone, it simply feels different now and we must let go of chasing history and allow the new "We" to come into being. Tantra is a process of surrender to flow as individuals so the couple can connect as equals who are sensitive to the ever changing "We". Communicating in a conscious manner allows history to be purged. The means through which we harmonize to flow are concentration , contemplation and meditation. The process of Tantra for a couple is actually three separate practices, one for each individual and the practice of harmonizing the "We". For more information on Tantric partnerships check out: http://somaarts.blogspot.com/2014/06/tantric-partnership.html
- Men's Tantra Classes: http://www.meetup.com/MasculineVitality/
- CoEd Classes: http://www.meetup.com/Soma-Arts-Tantra-For-All/

An Authentic Man Thru Tantra

The Gifts of Tantra are not the product of cultivation but revelation.

For class schedule click here: Men's Tantra

Gentlemen, to begin with I need too get this out of the way; the Tantra classes offered are NOT about more sex, better sex, hooking up, or massage. This is a program about learning to work with sexual energy; better sex happens, bonding between partners, improved vitality, and more sex without post ejaculation fatigue are side effects (read:Understanding Orgasm). Sexually it's about reinvention, a change in the pattern, in HOW we approach sex. Tantric practices will affect the nervous system, rewriting the patterns, eventually culminating in Authenticity. Any system which cultivates awareness is necessarily cultivating sensitivity, and as our sensitivity grows so to does our experience of life, including sex. We where taught many things while growing up and one of those things wasn't HOW to make love; for most of us we were either naturals at it or it was a bit of a trial and error process. The end result of our conditioning sexually is that we have become servants to desire (read:Understanding Desire). You must be willing to simply witness your attachment to the High provoked by sexual stimulus. In the end what we are really here to learn... Surrender is the opposite of giving up. It is freeing yourself from the desire to be in control.  

If you have or are experiencing any of the following this course could be of HUGE benefit for you: Performance Anxiety, premature ejaculation, swollen prostate, lost libido, sex addiction, loss of sensitivity, chronic fatigue and depression, anxiety dis-order, mental fogginess, feelings of dis-connect, spaciness...

Part of Soma's Tantra program involves the process of purification. Purification occurs on multiple levels beginning at the physical and becoming more subtle as we become more sensitive. Through correct eating habits and movement the body will operate more efficiently. Through understand the nature of desire for food, sex, material goods etc... we will operate more efficiently. Through reducing various energy drains and choosing those actions and activities which strengthen our understanding of our purpose we will operate more efficiently. Again we have all the tools in place already, they have been there since birth just waiting for us to utilize them. Our ego is just along for the ride guided externally not by pleasure seeking, but Joy and Love; and guided internally by presence and intuition.

Objectives of Soma's Tantra Program:
1. Transference of essential knowledge
- The program intent is not to teach the language of Tantra, but to transcend knowledge by accessing direct experience. The classes will be taught using direct language utilizing only those terms which aid in illuminating essential concepts. We are here to cultivate the individual first and foremost, cultural/societal/familial attachments are to be left at the door.

2. Apply and integrate White Tantric techniques as a daily practice
- This will be a physical class, not necessarily exhausting or like an exercise or gym Yoga class; the majority of the work is internal meaning: learning to move energy, breath work, contraction/relaxation of internal musculature, light movement, and self massage utilizing pressure points. A personal practice facilitates raising of awareness/kundalini without loosing your grounding, which is what often occurs when we release built up sexual energy instead of transmuting it. You should be willing to set aside at least 1 hour per day for your daily practice. 

3. Purification
- There will not be a specific diet assigned for the class as each member will be challenged to stick too some basic guidelines intended to bring about sensitivity to ones own biochemistry. The body will let you know what foods are correct and which eating behaviors are conditioned by our culture or our unsteady emotions. A mindful dietary approach is about cultivating a relationship with what is brought into the body. There are no good or bad foods (exception: processed foods), just foods that are good or bad for... you!
- Meditation is the ultimate cleanser of the human energy body. There is a  direct relationship between the stuck emotional patterns present in your energy body and your health/feeling of well being. We experience thoughts and emotions as movement, and because of the transient nature of thoughts and emotions they can be released when we realize that they are not who we are, but rather signals beckoning for our attention. When we can be present to an emotion we can see its true nature. Witnessing pulls the plug on the energy source which continued to feed the pattern and cause a distortion in our consciousness.

4. Sync to natural rhythms
- Consider the number of natural rhythms which are apparent such as solar cycle/seasonal cycle, lunar cycle, 24 hr day cycle, annual 365 day cycle, days of the week cycle, etc... For many of us our energy fluctuates with these cycles, and if we are conscious of these ups and downs we can work with them and forgive ourselves for those days when our energy is low and we can't seem to live up too our own performance expectations. The purpose of tuning into various natural cycles is for surrender. It is essential that we realize just how hypnotized many of us are by what man has created, careers, material goods, institutions of society, etc... The majority of what we are "into" requires energy, and does not necessarily contribute much in return. Streamlining our endeavors to better serve us is a process which happens over the long term; syncing up to natural cycles attunes us to synchronicity which guides us on our journey and teaches us the meaning of surrender and faith: That there is more about the Universe that we do not understand than what we do! The fundamental first step toward union

Link to order calendar: 13 moon calendar

Link for Free pocket calendar: http://www.lawoftime.org/pdfs/PocketCalendar-8Seed.pdf

5. Partnered Tantric practices
- This portion of the class will involve pairing up and practicing various techniques for the purpose of reducing barriers to connection. We will work on trust, vulnerability, gratitude, and ultimately this will be your initiation into how too approach a Red Tantric practice. If sex has become repetitive and uninteresting to you, simply ask yourself "Have I attempted to approach sex differently?" your answer should be understood as significant, directive and meaningful.

Class schedule, click here:  Men's Tantra

Instructor: Akal
- 15 years of experience working in health and wellness
- Masters in Physiology, University of Illinois at Chicago
- Bachelors in Kinesiology, University of Iowa/ University of Illinois at Chicago
- 2 years of study in Human Nutrition, University of Illinois at Chicago
- 2 year Mentor-ship in Naturopathy, Dr. Arthur Solomon
- Certified Kundalini Yoga Teacher, Spirit Rising Yoga Chicago

Classes are donation based, suggested donation is $20, class is open to all men regardless of sexual orientation
For Payments by credit card: http://mkt.com/soma-arts-training
Arrangements for other forms of payment can be made by email: somaarts1@gmail.com

Information on other services: http://somaarts1.blogspot.com/

Check out who else will be attending class: http://www.meetup.com/MasculineVitality/

Sexual Energy and the Bigger Picture

If two people are sad alone how can they be happy together?
Love is Selfish before it is Selfless.

The one thing that must be understood about Tantra or Taoist dual cultivation is that it is about expressing the purest form of love, one which is impersonal. Impersonal doesn't mean without intimacy. Impersonal in this case actual means the participants are no longer operating from ego, but rather though the union of the physical bodies acting as a conduit for universal energy, highest form of love. The only prerequisite for allowing universal energy to flow is presence alone. When we are present we are pure of heart. Tantra doesn't require energy be project or directed, only that both participants remain centered as a witness to the energies which are facilitated by the connection. Typically, we direct the vast majority of our efforts/energy externally attempting to create the life we want through external means. The life we want ultimately doesn't require a relationship, money, a car, a house, ... You name it. What we truly want is contentment/joy/love all of which external means can only show us as potential, the real contentment is experienced within. We radiate from our center outward, not the other way around; remember we inhabiting this form 24/7 from birth till death, this is obvious and the most powerful realization one can have during their individual de-conditioning process. When we first begin our self awareness process we must remember we all have issues and those issues are what we are attempting to bring to the surface, so that they may be brought out of the shadows and our highest attributes may be expressed through clarity. When we operate from our center we allow ourselves to be affected and to affect others without holding onto the outcome whether negative or positive, because all outcomes are temporary and for our learning in the moment.

Through out history sex has generally been labeled the bad guy, a sin, and sex for pleasure was a direct trip to hell. Many of the teachings from traditional religions in essence had a foundation built upon natural law. Natural law is the law of how creation functions both known and unknown, this law is reacted to, witnessed and not created by man. Many of the traditional beliefs about sex were simply shallow versions of deeper truths, and one could speculate that the hierarchy had an interest in keeping humanity in the dark regarding the true nature of sexual energy. Many traditional religions made a practice of informing their followers to continue to look up and to assume the creator was somewhere outside themselves. Part of that looking away mandate included shamming humanities way of modeling creation, SEX. Anytime we hold a negative emotion about something as foundational as sex we distort the flow of energy as it moves through that particular area or Chakra. Any distortion will lead to a im-balance, dis-ease, or dis-comfort. The original teachings about sex prior to the shallow interpretation and implementation of the shame mandate, looked at sex not only as a way in which we pro-create, but it also needed to respected as a foundational energy valve in the process of enlightenment.

In tantra, Taoism, and Yoga sexual energy can serve another purpose, arguably a higher purpose. This energy when conserved actually contributes to our vitality, immunity and nervous system balance. Keep in mind that in reality, on a fundamental level, sexual energy does not exist; it only exists in the realm of the mind and it's attachment to externalizing and experiencing energy within the area of sex. There is only one energy. Energy will manifest in the human experience in order to be externalized and expressed. If energy is left unexpressed and consciousness is allowed to remain still this energy will move toward higher spiritual states. Think of it as income. You have your gross income which is before the IRS claims it's share, before bills are paid, before we spend it on entertainment, before we buy food, etc... By the end everyone takes their cut from your gross you are left with a fraction of the original. This is how energy works. Energy begins at a base, where it is consumed by the functions of being alive on earth; digestion, maintenance of the organs, production of enzymes and hormones, movement, and cognition. We consume our reserve even further though our unconscious patterns of worry, judgement, sulking, intellectualizing, anger, and self pity. All functions of living remove energy from the original gross. Ejaculation is one of those processes which not only has the potential to bring about life, but also an energetic debt. Sexual activity involves a huge cascade of hormones and biological processes, which are left out of balance once ejaculation occurs.

Sex can either be for reproductive purposes or for bonding and cultivation of intimacy which may have an uplifting and healing effect on the body. There are a number of hormones associated with bonding which may lead to feelings of well being and closeness between individuals. When two are bonded without the loss of energy the heart becomes the primary way of connecting and relating to one another as opposed to lust. For this elevation to occur much of the responsibility lies with the male in maintaining and circulating his sexual energy as opposed to discharging it. If the man releases he may experience the feeling of wanting to mate with others or perhaps resentment stemming from the feeling that something precious has been taken from him (sexual energy). Sex is a cooperative effort, particularly when the established goal is for healing and the elevation of this base energy. In order for a couple to move beyond reproductive sex into bonding sex there must be an agreement that a new approach is adopted and that the two partners be attentive to where the other is at. During a sexual union hormones surge and often the man begins to feel the pressure for discharge; this is the essential pressure which can be calmed and circulated. The essential pressure can be built up through abstaining from ejaculation, and once this occurs there is a latent charge which can be aroused during sexual union or by use of solo techniques. What needs to be understood about Tantric sex or Taoist sexual Union is the approach is not lustful and heated but is one of intentional pacing anchored in the breath and slow movements. This style of sex is not about loosing yourself in the other but about cultivating a meditative union. When we loose ourselves in the other our energy is also directed toward the other, which means there is some potential for loss if an ejaculation occurs, energy follows attention. The cultivation and transmutation of sexual energy is a healing practice, and giving away that energy to someone outside ourselves removes the charge necessary for us to heal ourselves. The healer is actually a helper, and this applies to those we make love to also. When two connect in a conscious union each is facilitating the healing process in the other.

If you can perceive sexual energy and its associated glandular secretions as water and understand that this water has an associated well or cistern of water in the brain you can then clearly see how the process of building pressure below will aid in motivating this subtle energy upward. Awareness acts as fire in that it has and stimulating effect on those areas of the body in which it is focused. This is a beautiful mechanism in that the mind itself is able to traverse the physical through feeling and its through feeling that the cells in that area of the body begin to resonate at a different frequency. Where there is numbness there is simply a lack of feeling or awareness. How this applies to sexual energy is simple. When the act of making love or an arousing guided meditation is practiced intentionally the sexual act itself becomes a ritual which aids in intensifying or deepening the intention. Anywhere we place our awareness or intention energy will follow; this is why concentration techniques are so very important, as the more single pointed or clear or intention the more powerful the flow of energy. For instance, if a sexual union is very genital focused, then this is where that energy will remain, and this healing flow will be underutilized. If we connect first through breath, touch, and slowly build into sex then we allow the connection to grow and the energy to flow in other areas beside the genitals and the mind.  

Sexual energy when transmuted leads to creativity, enthusiasm, and passion. All energy centers have a upward and a downward moving function. Sexual energy when stimulated is due to a downward flowing impulse of stimulation rooted in the mind and is usually stimulated visually. In order for this energy to begin its journey up wards it must traverse a gap located at the perineum and up to the lower Dan Tien, the space located bellow the navel and back toward the spine. This gap maybe traversed by pulling up on the perineum via root lock, contract the anus, perineum, the genitals, and belt line. When we shift the energy over the gap from front to back it moves to the area around the tailbone. Once we have shifted our awareness to the tailbone we can begin moving it around our orbit; up the spine, into the head, down the tongue, and back to the lower Dan Tien; for details watch video below. This is a practice that one can do while alone, remember it's important to connect to the "horny" feeling first.

                                          For Technique begin at minute 6:26

The one thing that must be understood about Tantra or Taoist dual cultivation is that it is about expressing the purest form of love, one which is impersonal. Impersonal doesn't mean without intimacy. Impersonal in this case actual means the participants are no longer operating from ego, but rather though the union of the physical bodies acting as a conduit for universal energy, the highest form of love. The only prerequisite for allowing universal energy to flow is presence alone. When we are present we are pure of heart. Tantra doesn't require energy be project or directed, only that both participants remain centered as a witness to the energies which are facilitated by the connection. Typically, we direct the vast majority externally attempting to create the life we want through external means. The life we want ultimately doesn't require a relationship, money, a car, a house, ... You name it. What we truly want is contentment/joy/love all of which external means can only show us as potential, the real contentment is experienced within. We radiate from our center outward, not the other way around; remember we inhabiting this form 24/7 from birth till death, this is obvious and the most powerful realization one can have during their individual de-conditioning process. When we first begin our self awareness process we must remember we all have issues and those issues are what we are attempting to bring to the surface, so that they may be brought out of the shadows and our highest attributes may be expressed through clarity.

The Body is Life and Life has nothing to offer but Flow!

For more information on Tantra, Kundalini Yoga, Personal Training, and Dietary programming Contact Akal: somaarts1@gmail.com

Tantra, Prosperity and Money; How a Dollar bill can feel like 3 Tons

This essay is simply food for thought; I'm not saying I'm right, but I am saying I'm reasonable

Bankruptcy for me was a spiritual act. When I made the decision, after having deliberated for months about what choice, I literally felt 100 pounds lighter. Part of the process of making this decision meant me having to look at the shame I felt as a irresponsible consumer or how I was now placing some sort of burden on society and that everyone was now going to have to pay off my debt. When decision time came I recognized that I was a more effective individual and could better serve society if i did not feel so burdened by debt. The clarity that came after the decision was made led to an explosion of creativity and I became much more active in serving others. I'm a minimalist so a house or a car or other things which we generally need credit for are not attractive for me. My choice worked out well for me but others may perceive it as a bad financial move for them. Ultimately we must do what is needed to bring clarity into our lives, and if this means going against the grain or sacrificing some security, or comfort, or obliterating our credit score then it must happen.

The beginning of any discussion on prosperity must begin with money. The image many of us paint with regards to abundance and prosperity is one which involves money. True prosperity actually has nothing to do with money. Prosperity is existential and depends on how we perceive and experience our lives; it involves our feeling of wholeness and connection to others and source. Money on the other hand is a creation of man and has been used as a way of centralizing control for 6000 years. Money simply is not necessary. It's people who create, not money. It's people who desire as a fundamental expression of their individuality too express their uniqueness out into the world. It's we who serve, not money. Many of us end up bypassing our highest expression in trade for security; we get stuck making a buck! Money can act as a block to creative energy, it can halt the flow of energy at the root chakra. The root's clarity depends to a large degree on our feelings of security and our innate connection to the Earth and all creation. It's the energy which flows through us that impels us to act and create, not money. Action motivated by money stems from scarcity and fear of not having enough, or simply greed. If we are creating from a place of fear to just get by and survive then we will continue to attract those situations and people which will match our own desperate resonance. Think for a moment about hoarders who save everything they have until the point when their living environment is completely crowded and their internal suffering is avoided out of worry/fixation about all the stuff. So how is a "hoarder" different than a billionaire? A billionaire we put in a place of high regard for what they have achieved where as the hoarder we make sad TV shows about and color them as being the model fuck up. So is hoarding plastic bags by the millions and hoarding little pieces of paper called money by the millions any different? Either way they are externalizing their search for wholeness and projecting the responsibility for their own happiness on something outside of themselves. Granted money is a lot more useful than plastic bags, but billions sitting in assets or bank accounts isn't really doing anything, in the same way a shit load of plastic bags sitting in some person's pantry/kitchen/living room isn't doing anybody any good. 
The following is a video of Michael Tellinger speaking about the Ubuntu political party of South Africa, an organization focused on ending the monetary system not just reforming it!

The reality is we exist in a world which perceives money as necessary, and because of this fact it becomes our responsibility to act as individuals in claiming what is inherently human, which is Prosperity, Joy, and Love. Wealth brought about by financial prosperity often makes our lives so much more difficult, not the other way around as those of us without much money would presume. We become susceptible to hoarding money and the accumulation of stuff simply takes up so much energy and time for maintaining our little empires. There are many paths we can set out on to aid us in de-conditioning our relationship with money and to get out from under the burdensome weight of debt, there are consumers education classes, financial management courses, debt consolidation programs, and there's no shame in bankruptcy. From a Yogic/Tantric perspective however, we let all of that go and begin down the path which grants us the clarity necessary for making important decisions based on our own internal authority and intuition. The energy lies within the body not the mind, and we when learn to trust our flow we begin to tune our lives to a frequency which serves our highest aspirations. What we must first do is cultivate a relationship with ourselves; it's through our practice that our sensitivity illuminates the path so that we are no longer walking in the dark. Simply have faith that you will be taken care of and act/create with integrity and prosperity happens.
Prosperity and abundance are about fulfilling our purpose based on our inherent form and how flow moves through our form expressing something unique. Prosperity is the joy of friendship, joy from spending time in seclusion, it's admiring nature, fresh baked cookies, its about appreciation and gratitude. The deeper the connection we have with ourselves the deeper our connection to all creation. In Yoga and Tantra the path is paved by acceptance and surrender. We simply must except that what we are experiencing in the moment is our truth, and that too will change. Change is the grand ebb and flow of the universe whether it be creation or destruction and it's change our egos must surrender too. The key is our understanding that we are always whole, and that creation is expressed from our inner stillness, our center; we are infinite in our consciousness, however if we are identified with the finite/chaos/movement/whats expressed, then we block change. The body is life and life has nothing too offer except flow!


For Tantric/Spiritual advice, personal training or healing contact Akal: somaarts1@gmail.com

Tantric Partnerships, More than just a F___ Buddy

In a Tantric partnership, we attempt to cast off the conditioning of traditional relationship structures. What's interesting to note is I suspect most of humanity is unaware they even have a choice about how they approach relationships. A Tantric approach is centered around non attachment. In the USA today we are starting to see all sorts of different relationship styles, monogamy, polygamy, agreements based on benefits, power plays, etc... Tantra is an agreement based on non attachment for the purpose of cultivating the higher self. The tricky part is understanding this is all about awareness and that feelings will rise, expectations will rise, the feeling of attachment will occur, love will happen; however there are no hooks here. This is not about seduction, this is not about children, this is not about security, or getting our rocks off, this is about realizing we have traditionally moved in and out of relationship essentially on auto pilot. The non attachment of a Tantric union is really about what happens when awareness is present. When both parties are aware and are in agreement they will communicate and allow the energetic conditioning of the other to move our energy in a productive manner so growth can occur. The attachment which is unavoidable occurs at the level of the Aura. The phrase that often rises when two people get all hot and heavy and decide to make a go of it is "you complete me". This statement is in many ways is very accurate. There are electromagnetics at play, it's a genetic imperative, a pressure. When sexual energy moves it will bulldoze through our illusions, and if we are meditative we can use this opportunity to clear our nervous systems. With all that rises it is important for us to witness and realize it's unnecessary to do anything with the thought or emotion. We cannot pick and choose what comes to the surface, the subconscious allows for a trickle to surface from the ocean of impressions lying beneath the conscious mind; positive or negative it's all simply witnessed.

Humanity is becoming more sensitive and more distracted at the same time. When you look at the mental health industry it clearly indicates a change is occurring. We are not informed about the tools available which can aid us in handling in a balanced way the new frequency present on Earth today. We are absolutely lost in the distractions, we lack the understanding that the over abundance of pleasure seeking, the responsibilities of ownership and generally being enchanted by the intellect has increased the pressure we are feeling to seek balance. We seek balance through medication, illicit drugs, sex, food, psychologist and teachers, we desperately hope that the next relationship will be "the one", and we hope that the next job will quell the or desperation for security. Humanity is at its core reactive, we respond to the vibrations moving through us which we identify as depression, anxiety, anger etc... and we seek relief by some external means. The solution to our suffering lies within, it is rooted in the ownership that no matter what pushed our button we have the responsibility the accept that which we are experiencing as ours. Taking ownership of the disturbance we are experiencing grants us distance from our reactivity which can lead to conflict; the simple act of witnessing allows us to connect at the point of vibration, at the primal level of the emotion or thought; our choice is to respond or not, again how many of us did not realize we had a choice in the first place. As we witness we essentially unplug the power source which is fueled by our identification with the state or attribute.

Human relationships sure can be complicated! When we are single some of us are almost desperate for a relationship or sex, and when we are in a relationship it becomes difficult in the long term to maintain the heat which was present during the early days. We cheat, we hurt, we lie, and we have no idea why, which is what makes all this very challenging. All the drama which comes up between couples and all the desperation for singles is happening because we don't realize we have options. We can try to do better which often doesn't work because what we are actually dealing with are hard wired patterns in our endocrine and nervous systems. These patterns are the product of nature as well as our relationship history. We spend large sums of money with therapists trying to find a way to reset our relationship patterns, however during the process we still want connection. The cascade of chemicals which trigger our desire for sex and connection simply doesn't go away even if we will it to. Let's assume we could will our hormones into not being quite so loud, then we might possibly experience depression as result and we might even turn to alternative stimulants to feel a little more alive. When we are attracted we experience a surge in Dopamine which is also the very same chemical that plummets after orgasm. Dopamine, a feel good chemical is associated with the reward system of the brain and many of us due to our chronic release of sexual energy are on a emotional roller coaster. If you don't believe me reflect for a minute about what happen after you ejaculate, "pre-cum" vs "post-cum" are very different states of being.

Tantra and Yoga are shamanic systems and pagan systems designed to help humanity find the GOD (Generate Organize Destroy) which dwells within and which is continuous with all creation. Our brains are designed to find pattern, how its directed will  determine whether that pattern brings harmony or dysphoria; natures cycles are knowledge just like how we think about knowledge, cycles and rhythms help align us (our personality) to our internal rhythms...moods. When we turn inward in a conscious witnessing manner we being to serve our other half, the feminine half which is associated with surrender and acts as the opposite to the masculine or external sensory focus and action. Please don't think of the dualistic energies of creation in a literal way, the use of gender as a descriptive only acts to illuminate the fact that we are indeed dealing with two separate forces within the whole of creation. Tantra means simply Union, all of its techniques, including sex, are not Tantra but simply powerful movers of energy.

Sex as a Tantric technique is both symbolic of the union of polarities (men and woman contain both polarities already) and a way in which we can begin to pressurize the energy of the lower chakras up the spine. Tantric sex is a form of sexual alchemy in which we surrender to the powerful pressure created and allow the dormant energy located at the base of our body to be transformed as it moves upward essentially turning lead (1st chakra) into gold (7th chakra). This is an intense process that many of us are simply not prepared for. Turning lead into gold involves the dissolution of our identity which can be quite scary. So preparations are needed before hand. Those interested in experiencing awakening through Tantric sexual union should have completed some amount of physical and mental cleansing. I'm not trying to make this process sound ominous, however if one has not followed any preliminary Yogic or Tantric practices discomfort will occur, including such experiences as rapid heart beat, erratic breathing, feelings of loosing control and insanity. Assuming one has prepared thoroughly it doesn't mean that you jump into sex and amazing things happen. Its helpful that both individuals involved are in a committed relationship; just keep in mind that the connection between both people is what drives the fire of a Tantric Union, this means that both live as spiritually cultivated individuals. Ask yourself, because it will determine how open you are to this process: Am I ready for this Union, this relationship, and have I cultivated a good relationship with myself first? Its about two individuals coming together and creating a mutually satisfying relationship. There are protocols to follow which guarantee both individuals involved are comfortable, open and free of encumbrances.

 A sample Tantric sex protocol might entail: kissing and caressing for first hour, and this is after centering through alternate nostril breathing, bandha (yogic locks), yogic movements, mantra, gazing at candle flame, gazing with partner with left palm up and right palm down (venus kriya), conjuring gratitude as an expression of self love/love of all creation, accessing universal knowledge inhaling SO exhaling HUNG, elemental visualization, meditation. The genitals aren't even touched for the first two hours!!!

This is an amazing video about how the Bible is very much a template for energetic/spiritual ascension, and how sexual energy plays a pivotal role in the activation of our "higher" centers of awareness.

Energetic Mechanics of Union and Agreements for the Practice

We know there is a construct, or mechanics, involved when we speak of why people are together because the language humanity universally uses to describe the attraction experience "opposites attract" or " like likes like". Either we enter into a union in which sparks fly, or we simply feel comfortable with the other. In our youth we often prefer the sparks to fly because this is the mating call, the call to diversify our genetics; often as we mature and sex becomes less important we tend to gravitate toward what makes us feel comfortable. The process really is about learning, its about learning who we are and avoiding the pitfalls of trying to become what we are not. Humanity is constantly responding to various pushes and pulls between individuals or groups. Our expression to the world is molded in a number of ways. For better or worse we are cultivated by systems our cult-ure has agreed upon and we are often deeply conditioned by our friends and family. Other factors that may influence who we think we are and what we express to the world include entertainment, media, porn, religion and more subtly collective consciousness. What gets blurred with all this conditioning is who we actually are as individuals and what relationships are "supposed" to look like. What is it we are actually drawn to, and why is it that we are often attracted to the same attributes or qualities in a person over and over again? Many of us make the mistake of judging who we want to connect with based on a number of superficial and conditioned expectations and parameters, leading to us not always making the correct energetic choice. Our check lists are misleading, we need a simpler way of determining attraction. If we pay attention to our inner authority, our body, we will begin to feel the various pushes and pulls which are present when we meet someone. Our attractions are our guides directing us toward those people and situations which allow us to progress spiritually by aiding us in the release of patterns and further opening us up to universal knowledge. When we are attracted to someone we are simply witnessing the cascade of chemicals triggered by the knitting of our energy bodies; attraction occurs first on a subtle level then we experience a more visceral response from the body. The construct of our mental-emotional field determines our attractions along with conditioning from our past, in essence relationships are a powerful way of working through Karma.

Electromagnetism of love and hate is what we are responding to when we connect with the other. When we are engaging in a traditional relationship we must remember what we are loving in not universal Love but the love of attributes, the love of how someone makes us feel; on the flip side we also can hate some aspect of the other person because there are always aspects about the other person which we may not 'get'. The path here once again is toward acceptance; we simply must accept the other person for who they are and any attempt to change that person is an affront to the other and a statement the they can be a better person if they heed this outer Authority. Connections are made motivated by a number of different energetic signals. A connection can be practical, intellectual, familiar, sexual or just something??? The connection cultivated during a Tantric practice does not need to be sexual. The transference of energy between two individuals occurs as long as a connection is cultivated in a accepting and meditative manner. Tantric practices can be deeply elaborate involving sex or it can be as simple as gazing into each others eyes. Presence is love, and love is not a hook. Cultivate presence and you will love the other and love yourself. Choose your relationship structure, create an agreement and remember the term "relationship" simply means time spent.

One of the most neglected and yet not understood, or pursued, understandings is the necessity for one to love themselves before they can fully love another. Much of the chaos in relationships stems from people being ignorant about the nature of the emotions which rise up in the presence of another. If I get angry it's because that button was pushed in me and the anger was already preexisting, and not necessarily caused by the other person. It's very easy to blame others for what we are experiencing, and perhaps this is an "advanced" spiritual understanding; however we must understand the provocation of the emotion isn't a problem but an opportunity for grace and transcendence. The emotion rises within, meaning it's the experiencer's opportunity to learn about it. We cannot control what others do to us however we certainly have a choice how we are responding to the button push. Sensitivity is the only way we can correctly determine how to respond to strife within a relationship, and sensitivity is cultivated individually and through an aware relationship with oneself. There are many opportunities to develop our center and to overcome repressed pain. Yoga, mediation, and a Tantric relationship are all ways in which we progressively become more comfortable in our own skin. In a Tantric partnership we can expect button pushing just as in a conventional approach except with one fundamental difference, the individual is aware the source of the emotion is themselves. This is a gift, two cultivated people coming together in a union with the intention of furthering each others spiritual progress through the release of stuck patterns. What this means on a fundamental level is each individual in a partnership is functioning as themselves; they are living their life directed by their own inner authority, which brings about the supreme awareness of functioning correctly within the flow.

Tantra is about the discovery of our individuality through a process in which we connect with deeper aspects of ourselves often facilitated by a mutually beneficial partnered practice. Some important points too remember before embarking on this path:
1. The relationship is based upon agreements. This is a non-manipulative approach and hence there are no secrets or hidden agendas. An agreement is designed which will allow both to experience the connection fully without the fear that the other will breach an unspoken boundary. If both partners agree to penetration, then so be it; if both agree there will be no kissing, then so be it; if both agree that oral is as far as it goes then this must be respected. The agreement can be revised as the Tantric partnership progresses.
2. This is a partnership which is intended to heal the individual through a practice rooted in non attachment. Non attachment means that we must not project jealously, expectations, social obligations, possessiveness onto our partner. Each individual is given their autonomy after the practice is over, if this is part of the agreement. We may feel attachment, which is fine, simply witness your pattern and communicate what you are experiencing. This is a practice devoid of hooks which might lead to resentment.
3. Communication lines must be open. This is a path which will activate our energetic body on a very deep level triggering the release of all sorts of rubbish associated with our past. As partners we must communicate what we are experiencing and allow the feelings without repression.
4. What if I fall in Love? Love is the point! You will fall in Love, however this love is for you as it is being cultivated within you. The connection this partnership facilitates is very much about experiencing a non-sticky love; a love born out of the Universe and flowing through you for you and to be shared with others without expecting anything in return.
5. This is a Therapeutic practice. Through a Tantric practice we will feel progressively more comfortable in our own skin as we let go of our conditioning and ride the wave of fell good chemicals coming into a balanced state.
6. There are no peak orgasms. As soon as we cum we often feel a relief from the pressure, however we also loose the depth of bond which we cultivated during the session. When a man ejaculates he releases the progress which has been made; remember the pressure is the point! Also, when we release our sexual energy we often experience a hangover of sorts, and a creative decline.

If the the previous explanation was over your head or simply not interesting then consider this. A friend of mine recent broke up with his girl friend of six years, his reasoning was because it lacked the sizzle the relationship once had. I have heard this so many times from men, they complain about the drudgery of having sex with the same woman for years, or they make comments about how awesome it would be to have sex with other women. So why is it we loose interest in our mates? Lets look at this both short term and long term. In the short term after a man has an orgasm he looses interest in sex and becomes more interested in recovery through sleep, eating, or being left alone. The reason there is a need for recovery is because the ejaculation event is actually considerably more impact-ful on the body than just being a simple release. Even though we often only experience ejaculation as a release of tension this is a major nervous system event involving numerous secretion from the endocrine system and a adaptation event for the reward center of the brain. In drug addicts the difficulty in escaping the addiction is linked in many ways to the tremendous high and low caused drug, the high is welcomed but the low is dreaded and unpleasant; nobody likes the low which must follow the high, so often the strategy is to continue to self medicate as a way of avoiding the low. When it comes to sex/masturbation we are once again seeking the reward of the high, the sensual sticky build up prior to orgasm. Once we reach the orgasm then the low must follow and the reward center of the brain starts on the path toward normalization. It's actually been shown that a man's brain is essentially dumbed down after orgasm, which makes sense when you consider the ejaculation event being similar to a pendulum. As a pendulum swings it will reach a peak in the swing two times during one swing, the beginning and the end, a swing to the right always must lead to a swing to the left, this is natural law. Humans are a cocky sort, we think natural law does not apply to us, however research clearly indicates that the peak we experience during the build up phase creating a huge amount of activity in the brain so it necessarily follows that there will be a low http://scienceblogs.com/purepedantry/2007/04/10/ejaculation-turns-off-mens-bra/ . Now consider how many times your nervous system gets jerked around every time you jerk off or have sex. Over the long term you have a larger pendulum swing which mirrors the smaller pendulum swing. We have chronically ejaculated ourselves into a position of never being able to reach our true cognitive potential, and true depth in our relationships.

For men and women one of the major challenges in cultivating a deeper relationship is about abstaining from a peek orgasm experience. For men in particular this is a huge challenge. The biochemistry of orgasm has been well documented, however science, while busy measuring the chemicals involved, has neglected to report much about the experiential side of what occurs after peek orgasm.

If you can measure it biochemically or bio-electricly, keep in mind there is also an experience associated with the occurrence. Most changes in the body happen in a slow way, so the experience is sometimes missed. The cultivation of sensitivity allows us to know when something is off. It's through the practice of various awareness techniques one's awareness over time is sharpened. Sensitivity is a double edged sword at least in the early stages of a practice such as Yoga; as our sensory system is sharpened we are given the opportunity to witness all that has been ignored in the past, however as we progress through any repressed pain/fear we begin to move toward bliss. Pain/fear/suffering are valuable tools for learning and for protecting us from emotions which we are not yet ready to experience fully. The nervous system is like a time machine, it can take us on a journey into our past or into the future based on our beliefs. Experiences which have not been fully looked at will continue to resonate until awareness frees the vibration and allows for a transition to a higher frequency. This transition is not a forced practice. Techniques can be used to get our energy moving and once it is in motion the volume gets turned up, however once a vibration which is stuck in time is able to be witnessed the practice shifts into the realm of the divine feminine and surrender. It's necessary that we transition from a place of doing to a place of surrender, then to balance; because the limiting factor on our path toward clarity is the conscious mind and all it's doing along with the willingness to witness our suffering/pain/fear.

Acceptance and surrender can only occur when we are operating as ourselves. Individuals directed by their own inner authority are able to be with another in an accepting way, and we are able to decide what we are willing to put up with. The acceptance and surrender which occurs during a Tantric union is a conditioning microcosm of the bigger picture of surrender to infinity/god/universe as it flows though our form. Surrender to flow and acceptance of all that rises in the moment as truth for this moment only. For truth to be realized, we must understand it lies in the present moment, is dependent on our clarity, involves non fixation on our past and our future, trust that the human experience is to be calibrated to love/joy as we move through suffering/pain/fear, and faith there is more we do not understand than what we do.

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