Tantra is about You, the Individual

Many of us have a sense there is more to our existence than food, drink, sex, work, and play. There is something beyond family, possessions, hobbies, wars, and politics. Most of us at some point in our lives can sense the existential crisis which all humanity faces has something to do with what's inside us individually and within humanity in general. What's inherited when we are born goes well beyond superficial genetics which we are endowed from our lineage; each of us has our own unique way of experiencing the world and it's through our experiences that our life takes form. I'll speak for myself, but I feel many of you can relate, that a life not lived authentically as yourself is a disaster and deeply unsatisfying. We can only distract ourselves so much with entertainment or sports, our obsessions and insecurities; we all know when something is off. When we feel off we search out drugs, both illicit and prescribed, we look for new items to consume, we lash out at those we love and we repress our emotions which cause all sorts of physical dis-ease. We hide from our pain because we desire only good feelings or simply opt for numbness. Even when we are in relationships many of us get attached in unhealthy ways attempting to cover up our own suffering through companionship; this simply doesn't work as what we bury or avoid will come to the surface in any of a number of different ways and once it does abuse or codependency may result.

Tantra simply means union. It's not sexual, as the sexual component of Tantra is actually just a technique. Tantra isn't even about connecting with another Human being. It's about the union that occurs within each of us when the desire to transcend suffering and mundane existence motivates us into deeper surrender to all there is. We are essentially passenger consciousness, meaning we are only here to experience and enjoy the ride as a passenger in the limo, which is the body, directed by the driver which is the flow of the universe as it moves through our form. What we have going for us is choice which must be made in the moment. Think about all the worry about the future or fixation on the past, we really spend waaaay to much time dwelling on nonexistent realities. All the energy for life lies in the body yet we overlook our intuition and make decision which are incorrect for us energetically. Another way to look at Union is what occurs when we begin to pay attention to the body and its center of gravity. When we surrender to the flow of energy moving trough our form we are granted valuable information about what choices need to be made, and when we look at it from the bigger picture we are merging body wisdom with the intellect, or the divine feminine with the divine masculine. 

 So what are we to do?

First off the search must begin by looking under your own nose and acknowledging there really is no search after all. Our reclamation project must begin with our body, which is how we experience life, and through which our purpose is fulfilled. If our relationship with our body is distorted then so is our experience of life. The body requires three things primarily: 1. Proper nutrition- which has nothing to do with what studies say is good for you, it's about letting your body show you what's appropriate; 2. Proper environment- which includes people as well as spaces; if our life is out of sync with the body then we experience stress, internal chaos, and dis-ease. 3. Our bodies need movement, but how much and what activities cannot be determined by any outer authority or even you (the ego), again the body itself determines what's correct. When one endeavors to hone the body the benefit is more than just feeling more comfortable in ones own skin, weight loss, and disease prevention; we also gain our inheritance, our sensitivity. When we are sensitive, life is vivid and we are no longer stuck in the details which previously derailed our joy. It's something very special to operate authentically as yourself, as whole, as individual; it's within our de-conditioning and individualization that we discover grace.

How to know if you are well integrated with your body: 

1. inhale, contract your anus/perineum/genitals/belt line, 
2. exhale and maintain the contraction.

Was it difficult to maintain the contraction, and was the contraction smooth and precise?
Why this is telling? The maneuver I asked you to try is called Mula Bandha or root lock. Our root is located at our pelvic floor, it's the center where all our most primal energies flow and where our true sense of security in life comes from. If it was difficult it simply means you have been distracted from the body or utilizing the body through will and force alone. The results of imbalance in this area of the body are numerous and include back pain, fear, feelings of not belonging, sexual dis-function, etc... The beauty is that if you practice root lock along with breath work and meditation many dis-eases can be prevented and the process of reintegration can begin.

The Body is Life and Life has nothing to offer but Flow!

Contact Akal for solutions, for personal training, and for details about what diet and environment are appropriate for you: somaarts1@gmail.com

Healing with the power of the T'aint

Lets pray! Inhale, pull up on the perineum and direct the energy (can be seen as a red beam of light kind of like a laser pointer) toward any area of the body which needs the healing; exhale and meditate. Amen

The perineum has an identity crisis. We call it the "taint" because its appears to be simply the vacant piece of real estate between the anus and the genitals. This seemingly functionless swath of skin is actually an energetic confluence. The Taoists refer to it as the point where when pressured can revive the dead. The perineum is a balance point between two energetic pathways, the front which flows down (think about eating), and the often hidden pathway at our backs, the vertebrae, which is aqueous and flows upward. In Dhan Yoga the condition leading to enlightenment is described as "fire down, water up". The perineum is the starting point for unifying the two channels. When we engage this area of the body we bring about vitality because not only do we tone our reproductive and organs of elimination but we also pressurize and ask the divine feminine to rise upward and unite with the waters above, or Shiva (consciousness) seduces Shakti (primal energy of form, Earth) upward. The process of enlightenment, or the surrender to the healing light of source, occurs when the waters of the glands below, sexual, rise upward and stimulate the water based glands in the Limbic area of the brain (pineal gland). The energy streaming through the center channel of the body which enters at the perineum is the essence of the Mother, or Earth; and it is this energy that when directed to an area of the body, the child, we can bring about healing. We must remember that for healing to occur following intention or a technique, we must get the conscious mind out of the way through mediation. 

Ancient traditions of healing like Taoism or Yoga often state that we must call up the divine feminine or water which has settled at the tailbone. This energy which lies there is the waters below of the Bible and Shakti of Hinduism, it is the energy which rises up from mother or the Earth itself. This divine feminine energy needs to be seduced upward through authentic action, intention, and concentration. The process of concentrating on a singular point brings energy to that point and applies heat or fire which will then create steam or chi. As the steam rises we must allow it to move through our being and open our channels of flow exposing patterns of belief and behavior which divert the flow. In meditation we surrender deeply and allow, however, without techniques we often cannot loosen certain patterns which still exist in the shadows. Techniques mobilize flow; Meditation allows the Universe to heal our wounds. 

I was raised Catholic and as many Catholics know our form of prayer is usually motivated by a guilty conscience. We fornicate out of wed lock, use Gods name in vain, commit adultery... we are sinners. The problem with praying for the purpose of absolving sins, as is recommended in the confessional, is we have a negative emotion with a hint of desperation while attempting to escape our transgressions; the result is we end up solidifying through powerful mantra (prayer) the pattern in our nervous system. Positivity or negativity will solidify a pattern, it doesn't matter what our preferences are. Pain, fear, and suffering are parts of life and we cannot fully escape them. Any attempt to cover up these emotions will simply lead to other ways of them being resolved. "Hail Mary full of grace.... " are the words out of the mouth but with shame in my heart, does the shame shift if I do 10000 repetitions of the prayer? Not likely, what most likely occurs is repression, the pattern is still in place. A prayer is a technique and all techniques must be released. The repetitions of Hail Mary will concentrate the mind which gives us an opportunity. After perfected action, or concentration, we can surrender deeply. When we can see our doings clearly in meditation and allow the patterns to surface we allow for the evolution of the pattern to occur. A technique or ritual deepens our intention, which once the intention is released and we surrender our control and allow the greater source of energy to do its work and we can be healed. Life is a school and this school is all about learning from our experiences positive or negative. Energy is energy regardless of our preferences, and energy directed to any pattern will solidify and entrench the pattern. Awareness must occur before resolution can be had, and before a pattern can shift. 

The truth is that we are not born tabula rasa, blank slate, we come into this life with a full set of characteristics and tendencies which become expressed as we age. Life shows us who we are, how we respond to challenges, how we approach fulfilling our purpose, how we deal with conflict etc... All our tendencies move through a spectrum, from hidden or existing within our shadow to being expressed as a gift; it is presence or awareness alone that acts as the bridge between shadow and gift. Awareness, not force shifts patterns. Each one of us is perfectly designed to live out our individual lives. The sharper our awareness and the deeper we can surrender, the more authentic expression surfaces. It's been said that meditation releases us from Karma, other words, we take out the trash. Techniques and exercises condition the body so that we have better focus our more flexibility leading to greater comfort within which is all expressed outwardly in life. If I go deeply into a painful sensation it will mobilize the energy which our mind relates to as pain, and once the pain is mobilized we must allow it to move on by surrendering our looking and obsessing with the sensation or experience; when we continue to engage the pain it will stick around no matter how much we dislike it because we direct energy into the feedback loop. If we allow and reduce the conscious mind, who we think we are, down to simply presence the pattern can move on because we have completed the balance sheet with both concise action and deep surrender, the energy is mobilized and healing and transformation can occur.

Belief is a technique. When we believe in something it becomes real on some level. This is how we create our realities. Our beliefs shape and direct our trajectory through life. We will attract and move toward those things we believe in. If we believe we can generate wealth, I mean really believe it, then we have the energy and focus to do so. Belief is not simply a shallow affirmation we are reciting in an attempt to blanket a deeper lack of faith. Often belief is not logical, it's just a knowing which requires no explanation. Belief can open us up to the mysteries of life, to the areas of life which confound the scientific method and objectivist reality. Belief can say there is more we do not understand about the nature of existence than what we do, and if we have to wait around for science to verify everything we will lead a very shallow life. Once belief is lived and released it becomes faith, and faith is surrender

Healing requires belief. We can witness healing happening without our direct participation. We get a cold and the cold clears up, the body's healing abilities have been verified. However the cold will return if we do not halt the pattern present in our lives which deems the cold necessary in the first place. If we run ourselves ragged then a cold results, because it is simply the body saying "hey you learned nothing from your last cold so here is another, now rest". Belief need not be focused on, it just is, and perhaps at first it's a philosophical understanding and if we persist in our awareness we begin to see the transition from a mental understanding to faith. There are still questions and conflicts when we only philosophically believe, faith has no mental hang ups because it reduces the roll of the ego in this big show. Faith is letting go of the need for explanation.

Again, Lets pray! Inhale, pull up on the perineum and direct the energy (can be seen as a red beam of light kind of like a laser pointer) toward any area of the body which needs the healing; exhale and meditate. Amen

Tantra the Energetic Waltz

Attraction can be strong or weak; strong doesn't mean better, it just means there is a tight knit. In fact a strong connection between two individuals who are not operating authentically as individuals can be extremely unhealthy and codependent. When our auras intertwine we experience how the other makes us feel, influences the content of our thoughts, and can give us the feeling of completion or discomfort. Our culture romanticises romance; our movies and music create ideals, perpetuates fantasy, and for some hopelessness. We feel desperate for connection, desire the heat of physical intimacy and create expectations the other may be unwilling or unable to fulfill. We enter into relationships because we fear being alone, because we want security, because we want sex, or we want children. Whatever the reason for choosing who we are with, we need to enter the relationship correctly. Correct is free of desperation, it's free of blind lust or checklists about what is ideal; correct can only come from the individual operating correctly within their own skin. Correct doesn't come from rational thought as it is inherently disconnected from the energy of the body. The intuitive knowing that the body gives off shows us how to direct our energy. Our instinctual knowing, our gut instinct, our patience to wait out the ups and downs of our moods all act as guidance which supports the body in a healthy and whole way. Again, it's not about the mind or rational thought. It's about healthy connections, connections which support our growth as individuals, connections which can become a dance done to the tune of authenticity. Relationships are to energetically costly for us to use them for escape or to simply relieve the boredom of being alone. Many of us hold the belief that if the relationship did not last "forever" then it was a failure. We have expectations our relationships should look a particular way and should progress in a particular way; we meet, we become intimate friends, get engaged, get married, buy a castle on a hill with a white picket fence, have 2.1 children and a Labrador retriever. Where do we get these ideas? The reality is we are always operating as individuals and how the relationship progresses is a choice and has a natural trajectory based on how we connect energetically. Relationship interpreted in the loosest sense as being simply "time spent" are never failures if we can see clearly how we have grown, what we have learned about ourselves and the lesson are not always positive. Every relationship between individuals whether romantic or not has the potential to create a unique "We", and it's through this natural and correct "We" that we learn and grow.

When relationships end often couples express that the primary issue had to do with unclear or incomplete communication. Sure couples fight about money or perhaps one partner has a higher sex drive than what the other might wish to accommodate, but I will contest that these are not deal breakers. With a little clear non judgemental communication and understanding a compromise can be reached. Many couples can find success when they talk it out, however often even after we communicate our needs we sometimes expect the other to conform or vice-versa. These struggles often stem from a lack of understanding about the other's needs or wants, and we struggle with understanding usually because we do not truly understand ourselves. We act out our lives in chaotic ways leading to drama and disconnect from others. About 90% of the population functions with an aura which is inclusive, meaning they are here to cooperate and create together. The other 10% generally is meant to function independent of others. So that means that the vast majority of humanity is essentially designed to cooperate. To a large degree we can see this occurring, however what we often also see are individuals fueling there efforts in selfish greedy ways driven by inflated egos and conformity to a system which was designed to perpetuate scarcity and feelings of lack. Cultivated, authentic individuals know who they are and what they are here to accomplish; they understand what their correct work is and where their center lies. 

When a couple endeavors to not only communicate verbally but also to learn about communication through presence alone they are then able to access the present and meditative aspect of themselves to perceive the movement of e-motion (Energy In Motion) in a non-defensive way. Relationships are about button pushing and they are a huge part of the School of Life, and what we need to learn is how this button pushing can be sacred and part of our growth. 

For more information on Tantra for singles or couples contact Akal: somaarts1@gmail.com